Life & Sex

This title is almost redundant with what I am about to say.
Sex is linked so evidently with life, with what life is all about. What's the first thing that can be said about sexual energy? It is very powerful and potent. It is also unbiased & truthful. Meaning what you believe and send out is what you are going to get, no questions asked.
I have learned a lot from sex about life.
In a healthy sexual relationship:
1. Being Present
2. Focus on breath
3. Willingness
4. Love and/or respect for the other person and yourself
5. Healthy boundaries
6. True intimacy
7. Good communication or healthy lack there of
8. Being able to be who you really are and be accepted
9. Being open


Powerlessness, victim hood, lack of control, or the other end of the spectrum, something that is supposed to be sacred becoming your worst nightmare - this is also very possible. 


Then there is the bland kind that maybe leave a bad taste in your mouth and makes all of it seem just sort of meaningless. Is it boring...Even the pleasure isn't worth the "aftertaste"? Carnal pleasure isn't necessarily fulfilling without the other key components. Listening to your body, mind and heart, being attentive and present, being accepting and loving.


Sex is the great expression of our dance with life and when we see just how very sacred it truly is - then we know from within our depths that we are inherently sacred.


It is our greatest creative tool! With sex you can express so many different things and when you bring respect and love into the situation then the possibilities of magic and fun our endless. This is a direct connection to the divine, which is our true nature. There are so many worlds that we only get glimpses of and that sexual energy can bring us to. It can harm us incredibly or heal - it all matters how you express it. 
There are so many ways to experience this energy and most importantly, this energy will express itself truthfully - all veils and masks aside. This is where you can truly feel yourself and your thoughts. Which can be very scary or very beautiful. There is no right or wrong - only awareness. Loving oneself - it's about listening and being open to all of who you are. Ask the right questions, be flexible. Think of life as your lover, how do you treat yourself and how do you see your lover? 


How you feel about sex is how you feel about life in the deep places that drive you. This is truth, from my own experience.


-Until my next post - I ask that you be more present with yourself - be gentle and light. Let the river of feelings flow through you. Listen to the body, it usually knows a lot more than the mind thinks it knows. There is so much grace & friendship and feelings of love that I become overwhelmed but very greatful.