Work is like family

In modern psychology it is said that we choose mates based on our relationship with our parents early on. But what if it doesn't end there? What if our jobs tend to reflect our early home life? A job is often like a family...each person has their role.
Interestingly enough, my job reminds me of my family paradigm. Everything was incredible in the beginning...Everything was new and shiny and fun! I learned so much from my manager and everyone was happy to answer my questions. There was my boss who every one was scared of but he tended to like me and I only saw his bad side every once in a while. It felt like part of the job, I expected to have some rough feedback when I made mistakes. Just like growing up, I knew punishment was part of my child rearing.
My manager was usually very friendly but when she did lay down the law she did it  like a true Scorpio...just like my dad. She was a good and natural leader at my job.
Then, a few years in, she left. Everything changed...just like during the divorce. We didn't have a true leader and now everyone fights for power. Some use guilt, others use fear or manipulation. Things don't run as smoothly and more often we see my bosses ugly side.
A lot has happened but over time the feel of this job has changed and I have just wanted to run. But I'm trying not to run from things, anymore...But run TOWARDS things. Face my challenges and overcome what I can.
Just like a family, I don't always like all the members and resentments tend to build. It's a chance for me to learn to set healthy boundaries without having a shitty work ethic. That can be a balance but I believe it's possible. It's not my job to fix anyone or hold anyone responsible for their bad work ethic. It is my job to deal with my resentments and to remain professional. I plan to do that.
If work replays our early family life...I know now what I needed back then were boundaries, speaking up for my needs and addressing my co-depenedency. For the most part I've been doing that but it can still creep back in there if I'm not careful. Speaking of co-depenedency...it wouldn't hurt for me to make an ala-non meeting this week.